Expert advice on over 60's online dating
eharmony’s relationship expert, Rachael Lloyd on how to date if you're over 60.
Isn't it wonderful that in a digital age, you could meet the perfect match from the comfort of home?
As the relationship expert to one of the UK's leading dating sites, eharmony, I have a first-hand understanding of how online dating can benefit people of every age. And you may be surprised at the rise of over 60-year-olds finding love online.
So, read on to find out why online dating is an excellent option for everyone - and how to date over 60 .
More over 60s are online dating
While most people on eharmony are in their 30s , we also have plenty of over 60s – and their numbers are set to rise.
This is according to our study with Imperial College London, which suggests that while only 12% of those aged 65 to 85 currently use online dating sites, by 2050 almost 80% will do so.
One of the reasons for online dating becoming more popular with over 60s is that they are seeing how effective it is.
Online dating is not just about romance...
The joy of online dating is that it encourages everyone to get offline and go and meet people. It’s social, and even if you don’t find love right away, you’ve got a great opportunity to make new friends and meet in interesting new places, like museums, art galleries and parks.
...but you could still find the one!
Getting older doesn’t change our innate need for love. When it comes to romantic relationships, our studies and user feedback has shown that those over 60 specifically value stability, someone who’s gentle and kind, and with a good sense of humour.
Online dating is safe
You may worry about the safety of online dating. My advice would be to invest in a reputable and secure dating site like eharmony as we specialise in compatibility-matching.
Only try online dating if you’re ready
Another important piece of advice is to only date when you’re ready – this in particular applies to to anyone coming out of a divorce or bereavement.
If you’re still heartbroken or grieving a former partner, then you’re not ready to find love. Any sadness you haven’t dealt with could follow you into your next relationship and harm an otherwise promising friendship or romance.
If you’re struggling, talk it through honestly and openly with friends until you start to feel better- or speak to a therapist. There is no shame in asking for help.
Take your time when making connections
Savour your online dating experience, it’s not a race. Take it at a comfortable pace and try not to dwell on conversations that don’t work out. There are so many people online nowadays that if you’re patient and focused the chances are that you’ll eventually meet someone special. Luckily, on the eharmony platform, we also have lots of prompts which help conversations flow smoothly.
Also, resist the temptation to focus on the more negative aspects of your history, because no one wants to hear you moaning about your ex.
Finally, see your initial ventures with online dating and your first dates as opportunities to get a compelling insight into other people’s lives. After all, you don’t have to decide straightaway whether you want to marry someone or not!
My final top tip for over 60s online dating: be yourself!
Some of the most common concerns for over 60s looking to date are, lack of confidence about getting back out there or worries about their attractiveness. Remember that you are truly unique, so feel proud of who you are and what you have to offer.
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