Age Is No Barrier to Staying Active
Hertfordshire retiree, James (78), is a great advocate for staying active in older age. After moving to McCarthy and Stone’s Retirement Living Plus Edward House in Hertford, James finds he now has all the time (and energy) in the world to enjoy a life without limits.
James has always enjoyed living life to the full. Married for over 55 years, James and his late wife Judy met at a rugby club in 1963 and were engaged four days later! An old romantic, James couldn’t wait to marry Judy. The couple wed two years later and have two sons.
The couple enjoyed on a number of sport and fitness challenges. 25 years ago in South Carolina, Judy convinced James to begin line dancing, practicing four nights a week to perfect their routines. The couple went on to win gold medals for their quick feet and impressive two step.
James and Judy weren’t just medal winning line dancers, but also madly in love.
James says: “Judy was a brilliant dancer, much better than me! We always used to play sport together, in fact, we used to do everything together. I’m very lucky that Judy enjoyed sport and fitness as much as I did, because I never stop!”
He continues: “One of my fondest memories is when Judy insisted she wouldn’t start bowling, as she refused to wear the whites. Funnily enough, she went on to bowl for East Herts and Sawbridgeworth!
“That was us, willing to give everything a go, and never give up.”
“As we got older, we began to realise that energy levels weren’t always what they used to be. Maintaining our family home and getting up and down stairs became increasingly difficult for us both.
“Our sons were eager for us to downsize to make our lives easier. It was a difficult decision, having spent so much of our lives in our family home, 47 years in all, but we knew this was the best thing for me and for Judy – who was slipping into poor health.
“We went to visit a range of properties, that all had different offerings. We were won over by Edward House. It looked beautiful, had the ideal services, and we were immediately made to feel welcome. Our priority was being together, living somewhere we were happy to call home.”
The couple moved 12 miles from Sawbridgeworth to Edward House in Hertford in December 2018.
With 57 stylish one and two-bedroom apartments, facilities at Edward House include a communal lounge, ideal for socialising; beautiful landscaped gardens in which to relax; and a guest suite, which provides a comfortable stay for visiting family and friends.
Designed to provide complete peace-of-mind, there is an Estates team on hand around the clock, along with a security entrance system and 24-hour emergency call points. An on-site bistro serves fresh and nutritious meals daily for those who do not wish to cook in their apartments, and domestic and personalised care packages can be tailored to suit individuals.
The couple’s determination continued to prevail. James says: “When Judy was diagnosed with pneumonia and sepsis, she was told she only had four to eight weeks to live, but she did eventually recover which showed her fighting spirit. However, she had very advanced dementia and moved to an end of life care home in Stanstead.”
Sadly, dementia ended Judy’s life in April and James continues to live at Edward House where he values the community around him. He says: “My two sons, Jeremy and Nicholas, have been a tremendous support during this time and really helped me through it all.
“Everyone at Edward House is very friendly. There’s a nice sense of family. We have lunch together as often as we can, and it’s nice to sit down and socialise with a morning coffee. Everything is covered, and I feel completely safe and secure. I know the staff are always there to help, but are a brilliant, warm and non-intrusive team.”
James also recently joined the University of the Third Age, which he describes as “brilliant”. He takes regular trips to the theatre and has lunches with the members.
Talking about how his life has changed since he move, James says: “Nothing has really changed. The difference is the freedom I have, which allows me to go to the community clubs, exercise at the gym, go on holidays and meet up with friends. Looking after Judy and Care Home visits curtailed my regular gym visits and then lockdown put a stop to my gym activities; however, my gym at The Manor of Groves in Sawbridgeworth reopened and I’m looking forward to getting back to regular workouts.”
McCarthy and Stone’s Retirement Living Plus developments offer the over 70s the opportunity to maintain an independent lifestyle, while having access to tailored domestic and personal assistance packages to help them manage their day-to-day lives.
On a final word of advice, James concludes: “Life will change beyond your control, but it’s important to understand the things that are in our own hands. Do the things you can to enjoy life to the fullest, and take it by the horns!”